Words of advice from Sayuri!

HOW DO I KNOW IF HE/SHE IS “THE ONE”?This girl knows her stuff!This girl knows her stuff!

So many Smeeters have asked me this question, so I will try my best to give you all some very specific things to look for in your significant other.  (However, please understand these are just some examples of what needs to be looked for in your current or future partner):

Let me first say:  Relationships are very difficult to maintain and requires a tremendous amount of work in the areas of Respect for each other,  effective communication and the Love between the two of you must be very strong.  Here are just some examples of what you should be looking for in your current partner or a future one:

  1.  You accept him/her “as is” – do not try to change your partner and your partner should not try to change you.
  2. You bring out the best in each other.
  3. You have the same values.
  4. In every situation where there is a disagreement, both parties must be willing  to always compromise.
  5. You give each other space.
  6. He/she is your best friend and confidant.
  7. He/she does not have any addictive issues (such as:  drugs, alcohol abuse)
  8. He/she has a good sense of humor.
  9. He/she makes you smile and laugh when you are together.
  10.  He/she is emotionally mature.
  11. There are no evidence of a control factor by either parties.
  12. You are both proud to be seen with each other in public places.
  13. He/she compliments you often on your appearance (i.e. your outfits, your hair style).
  14. He/she always say:  I miss you, I love you and your partner’s actions will  always be an indication of much he/she loves you.
  15. You would do anything to spend time with your partner.
  16. Whenever you are together, you have a feeling of “excitement” and butterflies in your stomach—no matter how long you both have been together as a couple.
  17. You both respect and understand each other.
  18. You both always forgive each other and quick to say:  I’m sorry.
  19. You can always be yourself when you both are together.
  20. He/she always brags about you to others.
  21. Your partner makes sacrifices for you:  and you’re happy to do the same for your partner.
  22. Whenever you are apart, you find yourself “smiling” when you just think about your partner.

*(Some excerpts from : Simplemost)

Always fall in love with someone who you Trust and Believe in.   Always remember:  relationships are hard work and both must equally put their efforts into the relationship in order to keep it alive and for longevity.  You must and should never take anything for granted.  Learn to always see and focus in the “good qualities” of your partner, which attracted you to him/her in the very first place.  Yes,  during the course of time,  people do change, but instead of tearing your partner down for things that annoy you, have a discussion and try to always compromise for a happy solution.  Try to focus on your partner’s good qualities rather than his/her past mistakes or bad behaviors. 

I believe, that the key factors here are:  If, your partner allows you to be yourself whenever you are together, if your communication between the two of you are very good, and you both understand and accept each other just the way you are, if the Trust, Respect, Love for one another is very strong:  You have a “winner” and a keeper.

“Fall in love in with someone who comes into your life, and makes you understand why it never worked with anyone else.”  (James M. Sama)

Hope all the information I have provided above help all of you to find that “right one”.  Just always remember that we are all human beings and not perfect with many flaws but, I believe,  the relationships that are solid and last for eternity, are those that have those key ingredients I mentioned above—and remember, all relationships, if you feel in your heart are worth keeping, does require a  lot of hard work by both partners. 

So until we meet again.  Keep smiling, keep dancing, keep meeting new peoples on Smeet and keep falling in love over and over again until you find the “Right One”.  If you see me around on Smeet, please do not hesitate to say “hi” and if you have any type of relationship questions or any other topics you would like to see published in my “Dear Sayuri” column in the En server Smeet blog, please message me in private.  Always remember to love one another.  Happy Smeeting and May GOD bless you always. 

SAYURI, EN Journalist, ID#13520497