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Words of advice from Sayuri!

The Importance of a Positive Attitude!

If you are one of my regular and loyal readers of my “Dear Sayuri” column in the En Server Smeet blog, you will always notice my reference to having a positive attitude in my articles.  Let me define a positive attitude:  “An attitude, as defined by the Merriam-Webster Dictionary website, is a mental position with regard to a fact or state, a feeling or emotion toward a fact or state.  The dictionary goes on to state that the word “positive” can be used as having a good effect; favorable; marked by optimism.”

A positive attitude means  being an optimist and looking for all the good things in your life, rather than being a pessimist and always focusing on the bad in things and what’s going on in your life.  A positive attitude doesn’t mean ignoring life’s troubles, but rather having a perspective that can make all the difference in your perspective in the world around you and how you view all your current situation/circumstance/life storms/trials/tribulations.

I believe, through my own life experiences, that having a positive attitude, helps you to cope more easily with the daily affairs of life, such as:  disappointments, anger, frustrations to name a few.  Having a positive attitude, even while going through trials/tribulations (storms in your life:  some unexpected and some as a result of bad choices), will lead to success and happiness.  No one is exempt from problems in one’s life.  Some of us may be currently “sitting on top of the world” in all aspects of your lives.  However, nothing remains the same forever…..things change,  life happens.   So, it is vital to one’s survival to endure and ride out the storms in your life by having a positive mental outlook on everything happening around you. 

How does one get or obtain a positive attitude?  The following things will help you:

  1.  Remember YOU control your attitude by your thoughts.
  2. Try to feed your mind with positive affirmations early in the morning as soon as you wake up.  Memorize positive affirmations and say them out loud as soon as you wake up.  Throughout the day, as you encounter difficult peoples, situations or your mind is thinking about negative things that have happened in your past, that is playing back over and over again:  Stop those negative thoughts immediately and then replace them with positive ones.  Try to reflect and see all of the blessings in your life currently and say those positive affirmations in your brain.  This will definitely bring a smile to your face and will make your perspective change to a positive one.
  3. Having and maintaining a positive attitude in one’s life takes practice and determination to want to change.   Everything in life that brings us happiness and success requires a strong  will  and determination to want to change and the courage to see it through.

Having a positive attitude will help you to achieve goals and attain success in your life.  It will bring more happiness into your life and produce more energy.  A very important thing, I feel, that having a positive attitude and maintaining it at all times, will most definitely increase your faith in your abililties, and will bring hope for a brighter future. 

Always remember to never focus on yourself and your situation/problems.  Maintain your positive attitude while suffering and always remember that suffering produces perseverance and perseverance produces character and character produces:  HOPE!  No suffering and pain is wasted.  God will use all of your pain and suffering for His Glory and you will be able to help others going through the same type of trials/storms you have been through by inspiring and encouraging them.

I have learned in my lifetime that nothing bad or good lasts forever, but the important thing to always remember while going through a difficult time(storm in your life), whether it be an unexpected loss of job, a divorce, a relationship breakup, financial problems, terminal illness, whatever the “storm” is you are facing currently, you are never alone—for God is right beside you.  Believe in good things to come into your life and always speak “life” to your life.  Practice being grateful every single day.  Try to always maintain a mind and heart of gratitude  It takes practice  like anything else, but this attitude of gratitude will change your perspective on life itself and all things/peoples around you.  Try it!  It’s free and you have nothing to lose, but to gain only good things to come your way and happiness and success.

Hope all of the above information will help all of you to always count your blessings daily,  practice having a positive attitude and gratitude every single day and stand back to see miracles unfold into your lives:  much happiness and success too.

So until the next time we meet again.  Always keep smiling, keep dancing, keep meeting new peoples on Smeet and keep falling in love.  Be kind to one another and always love everyone.  If you see me around on Smeet, please do not hesitate to say hi and if you have any type of relationship question, please message me in private and I will be sure to answer them in my column.  Happy Smeeting to all of you and God bless! 

SAYURI, EN Smeet Journalist,  ID#13520497