Hey, it's WillKane. This article I want to talk about something that I really don’t think gets much attention in a lot of ways today, but should: men helping women out in their relationships, compared to a more old school approach of a woman helping the man out. Of course, men do need all the help they can get, ha, but shouldn't this help go both ways? I think we know on a basic level that it should, but let's go into this further.
I'm sure a lot of us know the story of Adam and Eve which I talked a little about last time, but here I think we should look at the second chapter of the Genesis account where Eve is created, specifically verse 18, the famous “helper” or “help meet” verse, according to most translations. These words all come from the Hebrew “ezer kenegdo,” the translation of which has caused some debate. So when we break it down, I favor the most literal way to look at it so I can understand the original meaning. According to a word study online for the word ezer (which normally means “help”), “Recently R. David Freedman has pointed out that the Hebrew word ezer is a combination of two roots: `-z-r, meaning ‘to rescue, to save,’ and g-z-r, meaning ‘to be strong.’" (1) This interpretation is also backed by a daily reading from the Ransomed Heart website, “But (Hebrew scholar) Robert Alter says this is ‘a notoriously difficult word to translate.’ It means something far more powerful than just ‘helper’; it means ‘lifesaver.’" (2) It is one thing to help someone out with a chore or an everyday problem, but it’s much different to be rescued by someone who is strong, kind of like those stories of people who have lifted a car in order to free someone trapped under it, literally saving a life. But yet I truly believe this is the way it was intended to be.
And while the word kenegdo normally is the "meet" part of the phrase "help meet," again I prefer to look at a more literal approach provided by Rachel Held Evans, who says “In Genesis 2, ezer is combined with the word kenegdo to mean something like ‘a helper of the same nature,’ or a corresponding character. Kenegdo literally means ‘as in front of him,’ suggesting that the ezer (Eve) of Genesis 2 is Adam’s perfect match…Everything about this descriptor implies mutuality and harmony, and it provides us with a lovely glimpse of what a sinless relationship between a man and a woman might look like, the picture of a true partnership.” (3) So as we can see here, the term “help meet” really doesn’t do the original Hebrew phrase much justice. Instead, we’re literally presented with a strong saver in front of him who is a perfect match, if you will. So when a man meets the woman who is truly right for him, he really has met his match, ha.
So what does this mean for men, or those growing up to be men? It means that women were made to be so wonderful like that that it is important to not only recognize, but encourage and take care of women in that respect by returning the favor, every day. So even if a guy comes home after work and is just plain tired, how hard is it to spend a little time with the right woman he loves, or help around the house with chores for a while, and so on? Sure, I like to hit the sack as much as anyone after working night shift, but it makes all the difference in the world to my wife for me to take moments and make her feel and know she is not only the one, but that she is the most important in this world to me, and that I would do anything to help her because she really does save my sorry butt a lot of times. She is also the physically toughest and one of the most mentally strong women I have ever known; she is my perfect match.
Of course, there are many things that get in the way of relationships, even the best ones. For men, the biggest problem is pride; there are others, like addiction, lust, apathy, and so forth, but pride always is the biggest. For example, if I find myself getting angry at my wife, most every time it’s because of pride and wanting to blame instead of humbly putting her above me, and I’m sure that any man who listens to his conscience can agree. I am not saying my wife is perfect, but it does start with me usually. For women, the biggest problem I have seen is the desire to control, for different reasons (fear, jealousy, anger, etc.); again, there are other problems as well, which I’m not saying here that we as men are well-aware of (because I sure as heck don’t wanna hear about it from any woman reading this article for the rest of my life). And there are common problems men and women share in relationships (financial, sexual, you know the deal). But in the end, are we willing as men and women to "meet our match" where they are at in life and seek to grow together and closer?
I’ll leave you with this: one of my wife’s favorite songs, which has really become a favorite of mine also, is Diamond Rio’s “Meet in the Middle,” and the chorus goes like this,
“I'd start walking your way
You'd start walking mine
We'd meet in the middle
'Neath that old Georgia pine
We'd gain a lot of ground
'Cause we'd both give a little
There ain't no road too long
When we meet in the middle”
So whenever you are on Smeet, no matter how old you are or where you’re at in general right now, I hope you keep these words in mind the next time you talk with the opposite sex. It not only makes for less drama, but you might just learn something, and maybe, just maybe, you’ll meet your match someday for real life, if you haven’t already. Until next time, have fun and Happy Smeeting!
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The Pirates are here, that's a fact! The treasure of the infamous pirate Bluebeards is still hidden somewhere... And other pirates are on their way to steal it! It seems that these evil landsmen will arrive the 17th of September on the Isle of Smeet, so to finish faster your Pirates Room on time for the contest there are some new Boxes that will help you!
Remember! You will get the entire treasure of Bluebeard, 1.000.000 Fame Points only if you manage to dig it out until the 17th of September! Now repair your ship and get the reward you deserve!
We wish you good luck, pirates!
Smeeters, your FREE Safari-Smeekie-Room is waiting for you! It's time to travel to Africa with your Smeekiez!
The Safari Week has started in Smeet! Are you in? You've got the chance to get your very own Safari Smeekie Room for FREE with all its amazing features from the shop! Starting today for nine days you can get one new Safari Smeekie DAILY and populate your habitat just for a small amount of Dimes! But do not wait too long, because each new Smeekie will only be available for Dimes on the day of its launch!
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Ready for a fresh new start with EN Smeet? We're seeking to recruit and add to our volunteer team! If you are interested, please make sure to read this information carefully.
Before going to the Roles we are calling for, please make sure that you qualify before you sending in your application:
• You have a clean record (no kicks) as of the past six months.
• Level 40 or above (an absolute must for Entertainers).
• Knowledge and experience in the Smeet 3D World.
• Ability to follow the Smeet "Code of Conduct" and set a good example for other users.
Sports Reporter - Requires tapping into that creative writing side. Sports Journalists write about recent sporting events or upcoming Sporting events.
- Requirement: Interest in sports and everything that concerns to it. Collaboration & daily commitment on updating sporting events. Sports Journalists are required to send in an article once a month.
Officiant - Must pertain a willingness to throw wedding events for Smeeters 18+, host Wedding events in their 3D Rooms (designed for weddings), and lastly submit ID's of the happy couples whom wish to have the Wedding badge. See http://en.smeet.com/faq/you-others/get-married-in-3d
- Requirement: If you have thrown a wedding before, please submit an image of: 1 Wedding Room you have prepared in your 3D Home and one Officiate dress. If you haven't thrown a wedding, please submit any other images that we require.
Gossip Queen - Requires tapping into that creative writing side! Gossip Queens love to write about all Smeet-related topics, and have a chance to get their writings published in the blog!
- Requirement: Lighthearted and fun gossip (anything Smeet related, but non-harmful to fellow Smeeters - minimum of two paragraphs).
Entertainer - Requires throwing weekly events in which all Smeeters can attend, and are invited!
Entertaining users, throwing super fun contests, and allowing Smeeters to have a good time is an absolute must!
- Requirement: Essential requirements are ongoing participation, a microphone and a web-cam that work properly, good command of the language, available to collaborate with other entertainers and with the admin, as well as the personal qualities of sympathy, education, outstanding creativity, new ideas for events and the most important no embarrassment!
DJ – Requires a good taste of music. They must throw live music mixing events in which all Smeeters can attend, and are invited!
- Requirement: Essential requirements are ongoing participation, a microphone, a web-cam, mixing console (or virtual console) that works properly, good taste in music, mixing, defined style, create new playlists on every event and no embarrassment!
All applicants must send in a sample of their work in order to ensure a complete application through our Support Form. Additionally, please only send one application - repeated applications will not be considered. The deadline for submitting applications is September, the 24th - anything sent after this date will not be considered!
We look forward to receiving your applications! Good luck!